Divorce is a deeply painful experience for the couple and their kids, but the splatters go everywhere. It may seem like people are recovering from divorce, however it’s not easy to break free clean from the mess. People go into other relationships thinking they are done only to realize that they are seeing the same issues they were trying to avoid all along.
Unfortunately without the professional help of a therapist who specializes in fields like infidelity, divorce, heartbreak, it is very difficult to make sense of your new reality. The new failed relationships just demoralize a person where they start doubting their intelligence an intuition. The problem is not that they are unaware or not intelligent, its that unless the healing is tended to properly, the problem will raise its head over and over again. The worst thing you can do to a person who is hurt is to hurt them over and over again. Unfortunately I know individuals who carry on this sentence well into their 60’s with one failed relationship after another where even their friends start getting sick of the drama and start giving up on the hope that anything will ever change.
If you are in a situation like this or you want to avoid setting on this journey on a road to nowhere then please invest in yourself, invest in your happiness and freedom from the handcuffs this very real puts you in.
If you have not reached the point of divorce yet but are living like roommates or feeling like you are never heard and can never communicate what you want to your spouse then please come to therapy. It is so interesting how we spend so much time, money and effort buying and fixing and maintaining so many things for our children and our families and yet we don’t invest in servicing our marriages. If you guys are not able to maintain your marriage then the family unit as you know it is finished.
We have offices in Paramus, Mountain Lakes, and Montville. We do virtual therapy with video call or on the phone, so really you don’t have an excuse not to seek precise, specialized help for you and your relationship. Let us show you how to make it right again. Check out our videos and blogs on our website to see if we are the right therapists for you. Make use of the 30 min free consultation we offer via phone to anyone who is interested in therapy with us.