In this episode, I sit down with Heidi Lyne for a conversation about what happens when a woman looks successful on paper, but her nervous system is still living in survival. Heidi shares how developmental trauma can quietly program us to over-function, over-control, and over-give—until burnout, resentment, or a relationship rupture forces the truth to the surface.
We talk about the belief so many of us inherited: that love must be earned. And we name what changes when you stop negotiating for love and start coming home to yourself. You’ll hear how Heidi understands “over-masculated” living, why boundaries often get expressed too late (and then come out as overcorrection), and how real boundaries restore power because they’re about what you will do—not what you need someone else to do.
We also explore how to tell fear from intuition using body-based cues, simple self-testing, and the felt sense of contraction versus expansion. If you’ve been choosing from trauma instead of truth, this conversation will help you feel the difference.
If this episode resonated, take a moment after listening to notice where you might be abandoning yourself—and choose one small boundary that brings you back.