A 5 Month Virtual School that usesScience & Compassion to Heal Patterns Of Pain for the LAST TIME.
About The School
No matter how privileged or complicated our lives may be, we will experience our own brand of ‘personal pain’
This emotional pain will insidiously keep recyling through our lives unless we consciously make a choice to unveil it, and heal it.
The recycling, repeating pattern of pain is the Pain Cycle.
If left to run uninterrupted, the Pain Cycle takes over and informs almost all aspects of our lives and starts to create all the experieneces of life and love that we are trying to avoid.
It becomes our default way of being.
If repeated attempts at trying to get ahead of this Pain Cycle fail we can start feeling trapped, demoralized, and controlled by our pain.
Without a healthy ‘solution’ out of this pain loop we can run the risk of experiencing hopelessness and despair.
The School For Transformational Healing
uses emotional technology developed by a combination of science and compassion.
It is designed to provide a through SOLUTION for healing unresolved pain, hurt and upset.
It has the ability to heal and dissolve your Pain Cycle.
“I felt trapped in my life. I could never believe that deep healing, freedom, and peace of heart and mind were possible for me. I thought it sounded too good to be true, but just 3 months in, it’s as if a completely new world has opened up for me. I see things like I’ve never seen before. This work has helped me reboot and recreate my life. I have evidence now that deep and lasting healing is possible for me, and for all of us.” – Workshop Participant
All Broken Hearts are Welcome . . .
Maybe you are trying to recover from a break-up, divorce, passing-on of a loved one, infidelity, other kinds of betrayals, loss of love, abandonment, sexual, emotional, or physical abuse. Maybe you want to heal an insecure attachment. Maybe you want to invite new love into your life and want to make sure you get out of your pain patterns – all are welcome.
The requirement is that you have experienced enough pain, for long enough, that you have made a firm decision that don’t want it anymore and that you are willing to be courageous and do what it takes to heal your heart for the last time.
Surprisingly enough, we can all have a subconscious resistance to letting our stories of pain go. It’s as if we may not know who we are without these stories. This class is for people who are willing to push beyond the resistance, and the doubt and to go to unfamiliar territories within themselves to heal from the inside out.
To go for a lasting, sustainable, repeatable healing that does not require anyone else’s healing or contribution. To be brave enough to go for a transformation.
The School for Transformational healing is desgined to create the shortest distance between you and your healing.
The School For Transformational Healing Consists Of
5 Monthly Virtual Class Sessions (2.5 days each)
Monthly Group Calls in Between Class Sessions
Monthly Partner Calls. Consistent Community Connection
Consistent Guidance From Sanya Via Private WhatsApp Chat
Two 60-min Individual Coaching Sessions With Sanya Bari
(PLUS – One 60 min session per month when you register before 12/2022)
Two 60-min Individual Coaching Sessions With Sanya Bari
(PLUS – One 60 min session per month when you register before 12/2022)
You will have an opportunity to experience:
- Who you are without the disorientation of pain
- How to heal past hurts for the last time
- How to overcome the pattern of pain that keeps recycling through your life.
- How to safely open your heart and lean deeply into love and joy.
- How to create trust with others and commit to them without getting hurt.
- How to get freedom from being dependent on love and validation from others.
- How to develop sustainable joy and fulfillment without anyone’s blessings or contribution.
- How to make decisions about your life that you don’t regret later.
- How to create a life that aligns with who you are, and what you want to feel, experience, do, and be.
- How to develop healthy boundaries and heal the walls that block love and connection.
- How to communicate with love to strengthen the mutual connection.
- How to heal insecure attachments from childhood.
- How to heal the barriers that prevent you from experiencing the life and love ‘you’ want.
What Will Happen In Live Virtual Class Session
The class begins to feel like a family very soon. The non-judgmental and loving environment of the class is healing on its own. The best part is that you get to apply everything you learn to your own personal situation so you are learning skills, tools, and healing as the program progresses. It’s priceless to approach your healing in the company of others going through the same experiences.
The Transformations at TH School includes
From Just Living To ‘Being Alive’
Upgrade from happiness and satisfaction to JOY & FULFILLMENT.
From Surviving to Thriving
Transform your survival mechanisms & experience EMOTIONAL FREEDOM..
From Being Lead to Leading
Manage your emotions & experience CONSISTENT PEACE & WHOLENESS.
From Recycling to Recreating
Don’t keep recycling your pain back into your life. Heal the cycle for the last time.
From Reacting to Responding
Respond instead of reacting. Gain confidence in your ability to regulate your emotions.
From Pain to Empowerment
Use your greatest challenges as a vehicle to experience your greatest healing & evolution.
From Indecisive to Confident
Learn to make life-changing decisions from your deep wisdom that you don’t regret.
From Controlling to Inspiring
Affect change around you by ‘being’ the change you want to see in others.
From Dependency to Independence
Connect to peace, trust, security, and integrity without anyone’s blessings or contribution.
From Stagnation to Flow
Open up blocked creativity, self-expression, and the ability to love deeply and brazenly.
If you knew you could finally be free of the pain, upset, and hurt you have carried around for so long, what would you do?
Deep, sustainable healing and freedom are possible for YOU, and for ANYONE who is clear that they are done hurting.
Are you ready to heal for the last time?
“This work has literally taken a weight off of me that I have been carrying all my life. I feel light. I can breathe better. I feel so free. It’s as if I finally have the permission to be me.”
This Is a School
Like any school, the more you put into it, the more you will get out of it.
This work WORKS if you work it. I have had the honor to witness countless examples of transformation, including my own.
The more present and participatory you are in class, the more you will be able to get what you want from it.
The tools, methods, and processes are carefully developed to provide movement and a transformation where you feel stuck the most.
It allows you to dissolve the barriers that prevent you from creating the life and love you have always wanted.
What DO want to create, experience, do, and be in your life and love?
WHAT is standing in your way?
What are you willing to do to get over the barriers?
TH is designed to help you answer these questions and more.
The school format keeps giving you guidance, support, and encouragement but makes sure you arrive at the answers yourself to create emotional independence.
Through these processes, you create the ability to arrive at your own answers.
“It is the greatest gift of all to learn how to get out of your own blocked corners.” – Workshop Participant
Who Is this School For:
This school is for you if you:
- Are trying to find a solution to your pain and are frustrated nothing has helped so far.
- Are finding it hard to get closure or heal after a break-up or loss of a loved one.
- Are sick of your pain, anger, and resentment controlling you.
- Are trying to find peace and healing in the aftermath of infidelity or other betrayals.
- Are looking for closure and healing after a loss.
- Are trying to make a decision that you don’t want to regret later.
- Are not happy with the way your life has turned out and want a personal transformation.
- Are stuck in an endless loop to nowhere and don’t know how to get out of it.
- Are in-between relationships and don’t want the old patterns to show up again.
- Are nervous about dating again after a challenging relationship.
- Are looking for a loving long-term relationship or marriage.
- Are looking to attract a high-quality partner instead of time-wasters.
- Are looking for guidance, and support in creating the life and love you have always wanted.
- Are a fairly successful person but still feel empty inside.
- Are looking to experience joy, emotional freedom, and fulfillment.
- Are struggling to communicate with love to experience connection.
- Are a therapist or a coach and want to learn how to take your clients to a deeper level of transformational healing.
“The group format helped me realize there are so many others like me that are working through the pain I have been struggling to resolve all my life. It helped me drop any misunderstandings that I need to be perfect and keep a fake facade to please others. It’s so freeing to just be me and then to get real life proof that everyone still loves me when I am being ‘me’.”
The Coolest Thing About Doing This Work in A Group Format is That:
- It consistently gives you regular opportunities to work with yourself, so you are getting experiential learning as the program progresses.
- The barriers you dissolve to heal your greatest pain are also the barriers that hold you back from being the best version of yourself. When you heal yourself you open yourself to the potential of applying your learning to evolve any or all aspects of your life where you may have felt stuck in the past whether it is your finances, creativity, parenthood, or your work.
- You don’t just learn from insight about yourself by getting in touch with yourself. Many times the greatest insights come when you can observe yourself in another person who is processing what you are going through. The variety of thoughts, experiences, and personalities create a learning experience that is rich beyond expectation. There is a camarderie in healing and evolving together that creates positive and healing friendships and connections that last for years and allow you to continue your progress well beyond the class.
“You have to be trying very hard to fail to not experience a transformation with this work. The processes are so powerful that you get healed as you’re going through the classes.”
– Participant of a Transformational Healing Class.
The school will only accept 12 motivated individuals.
Once 12 people have been accepted, the registration WILL be closed.
Anyone who wants to join after that will be placed on the waitlist for the January 2024 school.
All classes are virtual – on Zoom Video Calls.
Please note these preliminary dates will be finalized in July.
January:– 19-21, 2023
Feb: 9-11, 2023
March: 2-4, 2023
April: March 30 – April 1, 2023
May : 4-6, 2023
6 pm – 9 pm* (EDT)
3 pm – 6 pm* (PDT)
Fridays & Saturdays:
9.30 am – 4.30 pm* (EDT)
6.30 am – 1.30 pm* (PDT)
*All ending times are approximate
Early Enrollment Bonus Features!
Bonus Private Coaching Sessions
For those signing up before December:
1 private coaching session per month by Zoom or by phone
1 Payment of $4,900. Due upon registration. OR
2 Payments of $2,800 each
The first payment is due upon registration. Last payment is due on Feb 1, 2023
Class Size: Limited to only 12 motivated individuals.
Bonus Mid-Monthly Calls:
This is an opportunity to ask any questions that you may have.
All Mid-Monthly calls are from 11.30 am – 1 pm* EDT, 8.30 am – 10* am PDT
*Ending time is approximate
January – 25, 2023
Febuary – 15, 2023
March – 15, 2023
April – 12, 2023
May – 17, 2023
What Does It Mean To Heal For The Last Time?
Healing that does not need ANYONE’s blessings or contribution but yours. This way you can achieve it and recreate it for yourself whenever you want.
Healing that leads to sustainable and reproducible:
- Inner peace – peace of heart, peace of mind
- Experience of wholeness, being fulfilled and complete, without any conditions
When Do I Know That I Am Healed?
You know you are healed when you can
- ‘Use’ your greatest pain to enable your greatest healing, evolution, and empowerment.
- See your greatest challenge as a blessing as it gave you the impetus, the guidance, and the courage to embrace your healing and bring it home.
- Enjoy and nourish a deep relationship of love, reverence, kindness, and compassion with your Self that is so integrity with who you are when you are not defending, and so complete that you don’t see a separation between any part of you whether they are a defective, imperfect part of you or a beautiful divine part of you.
- Keep coming to peace and love even when things around you are not peaceful or loving.
- You ‘want’ but don’t ‘need’ anyone, anything, or any situation in your life. When you are no longer chasing people, things, and situations to feel complete. When you have an experience of being complete, whole, and fulfilled on your own.
Note: Email more questions to Sanya@SanyaBari.com
What do you mean by me healing my ‘specific pain patterns that keep recycling through my life’?
Every field of study pays close attention to patterns. In our quest to heal for the last time, one of our biggest guides comes from patterns of emotional pain that keep repeating in our lives. In a way, their repetition is saying to us, ‘pay attention, take heed, take action’. You could have a pattern of abandonment, betrayal, neglect, being misunderstood, etc.
In the School for TH, each person locates their specific pain pattern and gets clear on what can heal this pattern once and for all. As we heal these patterns we experience emotional freedom and personal evolution.
What if my pain has nothing to do with a relationship? Why do you think this will work for me?
Ultimately this work is about creating a strong relationship with yourself. The criteria for the School of TH and this work is not ‘emotional pain from a relationship. The criteria is substantial emotional upset that you have decided you no longer want to drag like a dead corpse.
What is experiential learning?
The School for TH is specifically designed to provide healing as the class sessions progress. This is called experiential learning. During each class session, you will get a chance to apply whatever is being presented to your own situation (in real-time). As the class progresses, you are learning and evolving.
What will you do in the 5 months of this school that will suddenly make me create the life and love I want all my life?
In the School for TH, you will learn your specific pain patterns, and blocks to love, and step by step walk you through the process of dissolving one block at a time. There is a high level of support with the mid-monthly group calls, the WhatApp chat support, and the monthly peer calls. The group format helps you learn by the example and support of your classmates as well. The class starts to feel like a family very soon.
There are monthly self-reports to check your progress so you can have the greatest chance of making your intention real.
The class is set up in a way that you have to be trying hard not to get it.
Why is this school for 5 months?
It’s very helpful that the class stretches the span of 5 to 6 months so that we can learn, try to implement what we learned, make mistakes, come back to the drawing board and figure our way back. The best learning takes place when we figure things out for ourselves. The 5-6 months of class allows you to get guidance and support but also has spaces for you to figure things out on your own.
How can you be sure that I can release the pain I’ve had all my life in just 5 months?
Releasing, dissolving, and resolving pain take a moment. The 5 month period allows you to go through as many processes, tools, support systems, etc. to make it happen as smoothly as possible.
There can accidentally develop a subconscious desire to keep the pain going. My encouragement would be not to see this as complicated, difficult, time-consuming, etc.
What is a Pain Cycle?
A Pain Cycle is a pain that keeps repeating as a pattern in your life. If you don’t become conscious of and take charge of the pain the cycle, just keeps repeating itself eventually leading to demoralization, hopelessness, and despair.
How can you actually teach me to love without getting hurt? I feel like getting hurt is a part of loving someone.
It’s a misunderstanding that hurting is a part of loving someone. There are numerous myths and misunderstandings about love and relationships that derail well-meaning, intentional people out of the path of love and into the path of dependency, suffering, emotional turmoil, and pain. The School of TH teaches specific methods and protocols on how to love others ‘without’ getting hurt.
How can I feel loved and fulfilled without anyone else’s contribution if what I want is to love someone and for them to love me back?
One of the biggest sources of emotional pain and upset in relationships of all kinds is the misunderstanding to put conditions on some of the most significant human emotional needs: to be loved, to feel whole and complete, and to feel safe.
If my experience of being loved comes from someone else then it is just as
strong, solid and unshakable as that person changing their mind, being in a
mood, forgetting, etc.
The School for TH will teach you how to develop unshakable authentic love. You’ll learn how to feel loved regardless of your outside circumstances.
My secret is that I have felt needy and dependent on other people’s love and approval of me all my life. How is it possible to heal this?
One of the biggest sources of emotional pain and upset in relationships of all kinds is the misunderstanding to put conditions on some of the most significant human emotional needs: to be loved, to feel whole and complete, to feel safe.
When our emotional needs are not met, we feel needy. It’s a difficult experience for us and for the other person. It is not love, it is anxiety.
The School for TH will teach you how to fulfill your own needs so that you are in a position to ‘want’ but not ‘need’ others – and that is the amount of weight a relationship can withstand.
My partner and I will likely get divorced if we can’t figure it out. Do you think this is what we should do instead of therapy?
The School for TH can be done with or without therapy. The school supports people in being the best versions of themselves. An emotionally healthy relationship is made of two individuals that are emotionally healthy. The school does support couples in healing their relationships. The healing and evolution are faster when each person joins the school with a mindset of keeping the focus on themselves rather than their partner. This way one person doesn’t fall back if the other is falling. It creates the trajectory of pushing each other forward rather than pulling back.
Can we join as a couple? Wouldn’t it be weird if we are in the same class? I feel like I’m likely not going to share deeply if they are listening.
It’s not weird, in fact, it is a great idea to join this class as a couple. When a couple makes an individual and mutual commitment to healing the progress is much faster.
Couples who take this class together have the opportunity to create a nest of security in which they can mentor each other without getting hurt. Since both people are exposed to the same information it is very connecting to discuss what you learned in class with each other.
There are opportunities to share in small groups, one on one groups, and private coaching as well. You will have plenty of time to share.
If you are a couple joining as a last resort I will know this in the pre-admission interview, and I will keep a close eye on the goals and intentions you make or keep so have an effective experience in class.
What if my issue is my relationship and my partner doesn’t want to join. Will it still work if I’m the only one attending?
Yes, your relationship will evolve even if you are the only one joining. When one family member chooses to fully stand in the light of who they really are – nothing else is ever the same.
Will I have to share my pain in class? I’m a private person and don’t like to air my dirty laundry. I’m afraid of sharing in class.
You don’t have to share in class if you don’t want to. You can just say pass. There are opportunities to share in groups of 3, one on one with another student, and with Sanya Bari in private coaching (twice during the 6-month period).
I’m worried about talking about the pain I have safely packed away. I’m afraid this will be too messy. Does this mean I’m not ready for a transformational course like this?
Yes. This course is meant for people who have experienced pain deep enough or for long enough that they do not want this pain in their lives again.
Why are you so confident that this works? It sounds too good to be true.
I have personal and clinical proof that this work works if you work it. I too was wandering around looking for a ‘solution’ and only finding surface fixes.
This work allows you to heal from the inside out. To experience healing that is re-creatable.
What's the schedule like? In a month how much time commitment would I have to make to attend this school?
You must attend all monthly class meetings live virtually. These 2.5-day meetings are on:
Thurs night, 6-9 pm EDT
On Fri and Sat., 8.30 am – 3.30 pm EDT
Please refer to the class schedule.
There will be a mid-monthly question and answer group call from 11.30 am to 1 pm. You don’t have to attend this.
The class meetings and the mid-monthly group calls will be recorded. You will have access to this recording till the end of the school year.
You will have a one-hour peer call with a classmate that will be randomly assigned to you once a month.
If I can’t attend the class on Saturdays because of religious reasons, does this mean I cannot join?
In case of a special circumstance like that you can still join but will have to commit to watching the recordings within 72 hours after the Sat class. The class assistants can help you complete any work that you are missing.
Is there going to be homework?
All assigned homework is carefully selected and designed to accelerate your progress in class.
There are two forms of homework assigned. One would be to do practical homework which is necessary to make a transformation. For example, creating habits, and training on beliefs, attitudes, and ways of thinking. Using a protocol of attending to a moment of pain, etc. The practical homework includes having two one-hour monthly meetings with a different classmate each month that will be randomly assigned to you.
The other kind of homework would be reading books, articles, etc. which is optional.
What is private coaching? What does it mean that I’ll get one private coaching session per month for every month I sign up early and two sessions within the class period?
Private coaching is one-on-one coaching with Sanya Bari.
There will be one private coaching session given as a bonus to all those that complete registration early. For example, If you signed on in June, you would have an extra private coaching session every month till January.
Once the class starts, everyone will have 2 private coaching sessions for an hour each to use from Jan to the first week of June.
I just have to make a decision whether I should get divorced or not. Do you think this will help me?
Yes, this work allows you to connect to a place deep inside you where your wisdom is present. Unlike knowledge, deep wisdom does not change as the information changes. When you make a decision from your deep wisdom that decision is such a great representation of who you are that even if it’s an unpopular decision, you are able to face the pros and cons that come with it. The best part is that the decisions made while connected to your deep wisdom come with a lot of internal support.
What if I want to find or attract love instead of ‘time-wasters’, can this help me achieve that? I don’t want to get hurt anymore.
We attract partners at the same level of evolution as we are. This is not always good news. If your life is sending a lot of time-wasters your way, the way to resolve this issue once and for all is to change your own energy and level of evolution. After all, we don’t have control over anyone else but ourselves so this is not just an option, it’s our only choice if we are to heal this once and for all.
What if I’m a therapist or a coach, will this help me be better at providing therapy to others?
Yes. We can only take our clients to the highest level of evolution that we are at. To be a highly effective practitioner it’s important to consistently expose yourself to higher forms of evolution.
The School Of TH will give you exposure to emotional technology that is designed to cause a transformation – within yourself, and your clients.
1 Payment of $4900
2 Payments of $2800
The first payment is due upon registration.
The last payment is due 2 months from the first payment date